We all have a David. I know I do.

‘Big deal. So you fell in love with someone. Don’t you see what happened? This guy touched you in your heart deeper than you thought you were capable of reaching. I mean you got zapped, kiddo. But that love you felt, that’s just the beginning. You just got a taste of love. That’s just limited little rinky-dinky mortal love. Wait till you see how much more deeply you can love than that. Heck, Groceries–you have the capacity to someday love the whole world. It’s your destiny. Don’t laugh.”

“I’m not laughing.” I was actually crying. “And please don’t laugh at me now, but I think the reason it’s so hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously believed David was my soulmate.”

“He probably was. Your problem is you don’t understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to you own attention so you can change you life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to love with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.

Your problem is, you just can’t let this one go. It’s over, Groceries. David’s purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it’s over. Problem is, you can’t accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. You’re like a dog at the dump, baby–you’re just lickin’ at an empty tin can trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you’re not careful, that can’s gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make you life miserable. So drop it.”

“But I love him.”
“So love him.”
“But I miss him.”
“So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him and then drop it. You’re just afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then you’ll really be alone and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen is she’s really alone. But here’s what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that you’re using right now to obsess about this guy, you’ll have a vacuum there, an open spot–a doorway. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in–God will rush in–and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go.’

Excerpt courtesy Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

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